Wednesday, 22 July 2015
No matter how old you are, divorcing parents is hard. Let's be honest, it sucks and the majority will never see it as a good thing at first. But in most cases, it truly is.
My parents have been separated for over five years now. Luckily, they ended their marriage of good terms. I have been ever so fortunate to see how a civil split pans out. Recently though, they have been arguing a fair bit and the mutual kindness is starting to wear. I don't blame either of them more than the other, because it takes two to tango.
But in saying that, I do wish they would resolve their conflict in a way that doesn't effect me. Or just don't start any drama at all. And it's really opened my eyes to how terrible the situation can be for the kids going through cases much worse than mine.
This life isn't perfect, and neither are our parents. Some just aren't meant to be together and at the end of the day, that's all there is to it. I'll say it again: it sucks, I know. But it's the way of life and something many have to experience at some point in their life.
I think it's important for any parents who wish to separate to take their child(ren) into consideration and ensure their feelings are not overlooked. Sure, you can start pointless crap, but the toll it has on the kids involved is totally not worth it. Seeing both types of divorces, I much prefer being on civil terms.
So my message to parents: Please, please think of your kids. No matter what the reasoning to divorce, your child(ren) should come first and the tension needs to be put aside. Do it for their sake.
And for the children: remember that you are not alone and that it does get easier. Maybe it won't get easier a day, week or month from now, but it will. Keep your head up and remember that things will eventually look up.
If you have an opinion to share about divorces, or don't agree with mine, let me know in the comments :)
∆ Stay beautiful, Bri xx